These words blew me away this morning~my girl and I were reminiscing about when her and Ads were younger, talking about the dens we built,the pancakes we cooked at the beach,the picnics at the park all the wonderful memories she remembers that make up their childhood.
When she paused and said ‘You did all those things by yourself Mum,it was just you,all those times over the years it was just you’.
Behind some of those memories are some of the hardest times I’ve been through as a parent, during some of those days I would of painted a smile on my face and just got through until bedtime because our family life had been turned upside down.
I am so so glad for all of the memories we have created so far and I cannot wait for the many more to come.
I wanted to share this because parenting is hard no matter what your situation and on some days when you just don’t feel you’ve got it together or that your best is not good enough~just hang in there and don’t be so hard on yourself.
I am forever grateful that although it may of just been ‘me’ it was never really just me, my amazing family and friends have been there always every step of the way and they do they say it takes a village.
So here’s a huge heartfelt thank you to my ‘village’ for ensuring that I’ve never truly been on my own.❤️x
Todays tears (of the happy variety!)are brought to you by these absolutely beautiful sunflowers.
Not enough words to say how touched I am.❤x
Whilst standing in the kitchen,dealing with the seamingly neverending washing up,I looked out of the window into the garden.
Nothing unusual about that, I do that several times a day but today there is a space, a big space infact because the trampoline has gone.
I’ve been looking forward to it going as nobody uses it anymore.
But seeing the space now reminded me of a conversation I had with my Dad, several years ago. We were discussing getting a bigger trampoline for the kids and he said ‘you’ll never have any garden for yourself at this rate with all of their stuff out here’, I laughed and said ‘ that’s fine,as long as I have the patio to sit on they can fill the rest, when they’re older I’ll have the space back’.
Fast forward and that day has arrived now I have my space back, how quick did that day come around and what I wouldn’t give just to go back and savour those times again.
Life feels like it’s simply flying by.
Another little nudge, another friendly reminder that time waits for no one and nothing lasts forever.
Time is precious~spend it wisely.❤x
This memory popped up today and it is as relevant now 5 years on as it was all those years ago.
If my children take on any advice from me, I genuinely hope this is something they remember forever.
Love should be free, willing and unconditional.
I truly believe love is all around in our families, friends and lives, its a magical thing.
Love yourself and never settle for less.❤x
Even flustered girls need a break…
Letting out a huge sigh, Sandra turned and patted the small head staring intently up at her ‘I don’t know Pam’ she said to her wagging tailed companion
‘I just don’t know’.
Opening her phone and reading through the text conversation once again, Sandra managed to avoid the temptation of opening google to assess her eligibility of indeed becoming a nun and plonked her mobile down on the table,slightly firmer than she had anticipated~bugger!
‘Right’ she said, once again as if half expecting a reply from someone.
‘I’m off to make use of the gym’s shower and coffee facilities and who knows maybe even their exercise equipment!’.
If you know you know…
Fluster girls take on dinner dates hehe.
Any one else feel the same?
No,no no and a thousand times no!!
Not on a first date,I just can’t bring myself to even contemplate it.
I mean why would anyone even think about it as an option?
What? Why not its perfectly natural and indeed normal.
You need to pull yourself together woman,
Your a grown up now~well I use that term loosely haha.
Never~I’ve told him no and that’s it, if he thinks I’m odd that’s his problem not mine.
There is nothing you can say that will make me change my mind ~going for dinner on a first date is a ‘no’ from me!
Just leave it, you’ll make it worse.
It can’t get much worse can it really?
Honestly two words from a male and I’m dropping sugar sachets and spilling coffee all over myself.
Trust you to get coffee all down a white top, so what did you say to him then?
Nothing he said ‘hello gorgeous’ at the exact time I dropped the sugar, I was flustered enough trying to pick it up, that’s how I spilt the damn coffee, what a waste.
Yes I would say that was a pretty wasted opportunity right there my friend.
Noooo I mean what a waste of coffee!
Anyway I’ve decided that I’m getting too old for this online dating lark, I mean seriously some guy messaged me last night saying ‘I had a cracking pair of Norks’
I had to google what that even means ffs.
Hahaha well you can’t give up, its too funny.
Well I’m so glad I’m entertaining, maybe I’ll put that to good use and
write ‘the flustered girls guide to finding love.’
To be continued….
Its not me its you!
Haven’t done this in a while,so I thought I’d share another old but funny dating story from way back when…
As dates go this one was pretty short but not particularly sweet.
We met outside the pub we had arranged to meet at, after a quick introduction he looked pretty much ‘ unamused ‘shall we say for want of a better phrase.
We got drinks sat down and he proceeded to tell me all about and I mean ALL about his ex wife and how awful she was etc etc.
After what felt like forever but in reality was probably about an hour, we left the pub.
I said goodbye,thanked him for the drink and was about to leave.
Much to my shock he attempted to kiss me,which I skillfully ducked out of and left.
He text me later that evening, quite a lot later infact and I didn’t see it until the morning, I replied then was quite literally gobsmacked at his next message which went something along these lines…
‘It was nice to meet you last night, I’ll be honest though I don’t think I would be up for meeting again.’
Now obviously that’s fair enough, however he continued by saying ‘ unfortunately you really remind me of my ex wife.’
I couldn’t help myself and responded by saying ‘your ex wife who according to you is a dreadful person?!’
‘Oh no, not in that way,I mean you look a lot like her’ he said.
Ok then! ❤ x
Plenty more fish in the sea they tell me! ❤x
Nobody said it was easy
Single and trying to navigate the world of online dating was never going to be easy.
Dating apps are everywhere and the same faces tend to pop up on them all~including mine!
This particular email made me chuckle when I saw it in my inbox ‘Natalie they meet your expectations ‘.
Expectations? That word has huge meaning ,anyone would think that I am sitting here with a long list of expectations for any suitable male to have to wade through!
Besides that~I’ll be the judge of who meets my expectations thanks very much and trust me it will take more than a photograph and a few typed out words that’s for sure.
Maybe that’s why I’m still single haha.❤x